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The other day as I was buying the latest cd from my favorite rock band, the first thing that I thought about is, uploading it in to my itunes to be able to play it in my iPod. As I got home later that night I pulled the cd out and set myself the wonderful task of uploading it. As I got to my office where I keep my cd’s I came upon a big discovery. I had found myself to be a CD addict. As I looked through my collection of hundreds of cd’s that I have bought over time, I could not believe it. The total inventory after a couple of hours worth of work was a stunning 349. Wow! Can you believe that? If you multiply that quantity by the average cost of a cd it’s just becomes an amount that I wish I could have spent on something else, like paying my car off, or putting it towards my retirement, who knows but It really did worry me, how much money truly had been invested in my cd collection. I really did not plan this to happen, I truly do love music, I guess that is who should be blamed for this, but in the meantime, I will keep listening, I love them all.

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Again the ancient Greek Myths give the Secrets of meditation.

The Labyrinth, is cut into the stone floor of Chartres Cathedral. There was a plate in the middle of the Labyrinth there before the French revolution showing The myth of Theseus and the Minotaur.

The Minotaur like the Sphinx, the Centaur, King Kong and the Beauty and the Beast, shows the dual Nature of man. It represents the man without a heart, the savage animal red in tooth and claw. The Law of the Jungle. Kill or be killed.

The person only interested in himself to the detriment of everyone around him. The psychopathic personality who only wants for himself and who will do anything, even kill, those who stand against him.

Many people admire Julius Caesar yet when Julius Caesar came to France it contained six million people. After taking it over he had killed one million and one million had been sold off into slavery.

Similarly with Pol Pot of Cambodia, who killed 2 million people. Stalin of the Soviet Union who killed 65 millions of people, 25 million alone during the second world war and sent everyone else to the concentration camps, the Gulags. Mao Tse Tung of China killed off 35 millions during the cultural revolution in the name of holding onto power, and so for many other similar split psychopaths.

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The national background check - what makes someone feel compelled to do this type of verification? Is searching beyond state borders going a bit overboard? With the internet these days, it is fairly easy to figure out that crime knows no boundaries. Whether it is violent crimes in your own back yard or someone gullible getting their identity stolen through the internet, a national background check is totally within the realm of reason.

If you are an employer, it pays to have a national background check run on a prospective candidate, especially if it looks like they moved around quite a bit. The days of sticking with a job until retirement are gone and people will move around to wherever they can find a job. If your candidate has lived in different states, only a national background check will provide the results you need to determine whether to hire the candidate or not.

The national background check will net you a ton of information. Want to know the job candidate’s credit history? No problem! As long as you have a form signed by the job applicant stating you can conduct the national background check, you should be able to garner that credit information. This information is particularly useful if the job candidate will be in contact with money on a daily basis, like in a bank, casino or racetrack.

It seems like new information is discovered about something every day. And the topic of national background check is no exception. Keep reading to get more fresh news about national background check.

Got a criminal on your hands? You can soon find out with the national background check. Has your job candidate ever been arrested? Any felonies on their record? You can also learn if there are any outstanding warrants out for their arrest! A national background check could reveal a complete dossier on your job candidate like bankruptcy, driving records, professional affiliations and whether or not that person has a permit to carry a concealed weapon. Their personal information is even run through various sexual offender databases.

With a national background check, it can be near to impossible for you to conduct this endeavor all on your own. For one thing, you would not have clearance to some of the national databases that have to be searched and secondly, how would you know exactly where to look? The whole process sounds a bit daunting for just one person. The easiest and most prudent course of action is to hire an investigator or experienced online company to handle the national background check for you.

A major reason for an employer to run a national background check on a prospective job candidate is to make sure the candidate was truthful on their resume. Lying happens often and employers expect to encounter some of that deceitfulness. Without that national background check, a job candidate with a checkered past could just snooker you and you would be none the wiser.

Some national background checks can be a bit pricey, but well worth the time and expense. Just think about the problems - sexual harassment, lawsuits, violence - and be grateful for that national background check. Without it, you could spend years in the court systems dealing with lawsuits that could have been avoided.

Why?

• Joy is absolutely what we want from life. It’s our birthright. It’s what the creator intended for us.

• Happy people produce more. Joy is good business. And it doesn’t take a lot of time or cost a bunch of money.

• Joy changes the way we see work. When there’s joy at work, I’ll come early and stay late. Sure, I’d like a raise, but I’m certainly not going down the street to get it if that means risking my joy. When there’s joy at work, I bring it home.

So what?

• You can have joy now. We go around doing and buying in order to get joy, when what’s really called for is choosing. We don’t have to wait for the weekend, for our vacation, or for retirement: we can have joy now!

• Joy is a choice. I don’t have to wait for it to happen to me, to be bestowed upon me by others, or to win the lottery. I have the power to make it so.

• Joy is everywhere. It’s in the air around us, ready to be plucked like a ripe peach off a tree. We see it, smell it, taste it, touch it, and hear it. Most wonderful of all, we can create it instantly in our mind. And it’s contagious to boot!

How?

• Reconnect with joy. We need to re-activate the connections in our brain where memories of joy live. That means reconnecting with joy in your work through the years. The book provides stories about my early experiences with work, some about boring work, and a few about grunt work, and point out the joy I found there. My stories help you think about your own stories and find the joy in them.

• See joy around you. Once you awaken your old joys, you can’t help but see joy tomorrow at work. It’s just like when we buy a new car, we suddenly see them everywhere.

• Influence joy. Now that we see joy, we naturally want to tinker with it so it comes around more often, lasts longer, and spreads to those around us. That involves little experiments with joy. The book gives you my stories about how I tried to influence joy at work. Some workedsome didn’t. As you observe my experiments with joy progress, you’ll begin developing your own ideas about how to impact joy at your work.

This leads to a desire to know more about how joy works. So I provide thirteen principles of joy to help guide your experiments. To help you when you struggle with your experiments, you get eight blocks to joy. These are the joy killers towards which we need to maintain constant vigil. For those moments when you feel your joy slipping away, I’ll give you nine techniques to help you get yourself back on track.
Pretty simple, eh?

Two of my favorite holidays come in June - Flag Day on June 14, and Father’s Day, this year on June 18.

What I particularly love about Flag Day is that it gives us an opportunity to be patriotic without all the red-white-and-blue hoopla of the Fourth of July. You never see blonde bimbos draped over Ford trucks in Flag Day ads. Instead we should think about the flag and its history and what it represents to our nation, because it really is a symbol that tells a story. Conceptually, it echoes the British Union Jack, whose crossed bars represent the joining of England and Scotland into Great Britain. And unlike traditional banners, there’s no coat of arms suggesting a royal family or powerful aristocracy that run things.

Every flag represents its nation to some extent, but ours combines, in its 13 stripes, the origin of the American Revolution - the 13 original colonies that said “No” to King George - with the concept of a federalist system of equal states that make up a united group in the individual stars, clumped together in a pattern that has changed over the centuries but in which each is treated equally. There are many who believe that the red represents the blood of patriots and the white the purity of the American cause, and that the blue represents the heavenly sky under which the states united.

There are also lots of protocols in place about displaying the flag, most of which can easily be found by a quick Google search. Every citizen should learn them to show respect for the flag itself, what it represents - our liberty and our union - and the founding fathers and mothers who made those realities possible.

What I like about Father’s Day is that it reminds us to think about the men who raised us, who are so often ignored. Fathers have a big role to play in our lives, as children and after we’ve grow up. It’s unfortunate - it’s appalling - how many fathers are absent from their children’s lives, but that just points up how important they can and should be. They can be stern and strict, nurturing and loving, proud and overbearing, insensitive and embarrassing, and sometimes all the above, sometimes all at once. They often take undue pride in the family name - making them proud of their children when we live up to it, and mad as hell when we besmirch it through some idiotic decision. They usually want their sons to be just like them, and their daughters to marry someone just like them (and sometimes they have to settle for having a gay son fall in love with someone just like them!). But somehow, for me at least, a father is the guy who’s never in the limelight like a mother, but who gets all sorts of things done.

In my house, while my mom was “busy” with stuff - work, cleaning, cooking, disciplining, and all the other stuff that makes a home operate - my dad was slipping off down to the basement workshop building a doghouse for my brother’s Dachshund or painting a bedroom suite for my sister or making a little ring holder that my mom could use to put her wedding ring in for safekeeping while she washed dishes. Things that he made or fixed just magically appeared in the house, just as vacation trips magically got organized and family campouts got planned and executed.

I was lucky that way - my family was intact, both my parents loved all of us, and my dad was present (when he wasn’t traveling for business) but not too overbearing. A lot of people I know weren’t as fortunate, and it’s hard for them to make up for what they missed, whether their father was absent or abusive of just plain not good.

Every year, though, around mid-June, I want to thank my dad and every dad for being who they were. And I’m always determined NOT to buy him a tie or a sweater. What I look for instead is something mechanical, something that echoes the role he held in our household of keeping us safe.

This year it might be a new security system for the house, one that he can program to his heart’s content so that every time he locks up the house is guarded and safe. One that gives him endless options for timers and choosing the other systems that will be connected to it - basically a big boy’s toy that has real practical applications. Or maybe just a new, high-quality deadbolt for the basement door that my mom always worries about. Whatever I get him, I’m going to wrap it in paper with a stars-and-stripes theme, to remind him (and me) that the flag represents both the freedom and the security that are our legacy from him and our forefathers.

Have you ever felt lonely in your relationship?

If you answered yes, do not feel like you are all by yourself, you are part of a very big club.

Loneliness or solitude

There are two words for the state of being alone. One word is solitude, which is enjoying being alone so you can re-charge your battery if need be. The other word is lonely, which is the state of being alone when we do not want to be.

What to do, what to do?

When you find yourself feeling lonely in the middle of your relationship, here are some things you can do:

1. Don’t panic. This feeling occurs in many relationships. It’s what you do about that is important.

2. Talk about it. Folks, when it comes to strong emotions, what we do not talk out, we act out. Sure it is a risk to bring it up, but it’s a bigger risk not to bring it up. Many times, if you are feeling lonely, so is the other person.

3. Make a plan. Talk about the times when the two of you felt the closest and most connected. Then make a plan to do some of those things again.

4. Work the plan. Making a plan does not change anything. Working a plan changes things.

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I’ve been doing this for a while let’s and thought I’d mention 2 list building methods which I suggest you STAY AWAY from.
You might get different opinions from other people, but as for me, I’ve used some of these techniques and burnt my fingers

The first method is buying optin leads.
There are some services which will send you a list of subscribers along with their full names, I.P. addresses and date/time stamp. While having all of these as proof that someone opted into a list, it doesn’t mean that they opted into your list. If you buy a list of these leads and email them and get a Spam complaint, which will surely happen, you can stay out of trouble because you have all the information as proof that they opted in but it’s a continuous fight. Still, I wouldn’t go this route.
I once bought a list of 10,000 names and after trying to show them that I’m a nice guy and want to help them, I didn’t get much of a response from the list.
I gave them lots of free stuff but they weren’t interested.

The second method is to use Pay per lead programs.
These programs are a little better than the above method in that they list your optin form along many other forms, and people have to check your form and fill in their information to get placed directly on your list.
Let’s say you pay for 500 subscribers for $50 you pay that money first and then they will list your form on one of their partner sites until you get 500 subscribers or the number that you ordered.
The better the description you create, the faster you will get to that number that you paid for.
The bad thing about this form of optin, which I’ve also tried, is that people see a bunch of checkboxes, and they just click through each checkbox impulsively.
That means that they’ll be getting emails from many other people all at the same time, and then they end up getting overwhelmed and unsubscribe from all lists.
Heck, I’ve done this myself.

Those are the two methods of list building which I’ve tried and will not try again because they produced poor results for me and will do the same for you.
You might get different results, but if you don’t want to risk being disappointed, rather try some more successful methods to do so.

Copyright 2005 Ryan Blake

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Three T Communication

When it comes to talking about feelings don’t forget that everyone has them, only some don’t feel comfortable sharing them. And, when it comes to men, just the thought of talking about “feelings” is enough to drive them to the remote control, the den or Moe’s Tavern!

So, how do successful life partners communicate when it comes to the tender parts of our hearts we call feelings?

How do we break down the feeling barrier between men and women?

After reading hundreds of books, investing thousands on training and years of personal experience I have found that simply using what I call the Three T communication can dramatically improve the chances of a successful feelings communication.

Time, Trust and Truth

Number One: Time

Don’t try to talk about feelings when you are in a rush or when one partner is stressed about something else. Wait until you have time alone, where you won’t be disturbed to bring up the subject of feelings with your life partner. You can even take the phone off the hook or go for a walk. Most people fail in the feeling conversation simply because they don’t invest enough time. Remember, it can take some time for most men and even for some women to connect and feel ready to share real feelings.

Number Two: Trust
For me to open up I need to know that I won’t be hurt with any information I share. So, when talking about feelings, always accept your partners feelings as individual to him or her. Not absolutes that make him or her “bad” “good” or anything else. Remember, feelings are very personal and some may not pretty. Do not allow your own feelings to get in the way of clear communication. Build trust by simply accepting your life partner’s feelings, no matter what they are. Don’t forget, it takes trust to share feelings and if that trust is not respected you may never get an honest feeling conversation started again.

Number Three: Truth
Always tell the truth! Never lie, obscure or manipulate when it comes to feelings in a relationship. You may get away with it for a time but, as 80% of communication is non-verbal, you will never totally succeed in hiding your true feelings. Remember, we all have feelings we aren’t proud of. Don’t you remember wishing your parents were dead when you were 6? Tell the truth and keep an open non-judging mind and you will be rewarded in the feeling conversation.

You must tell your truth first! When you want your life partner to open up about feelings you have to put your “cards” on the table first! Don’t expect people, men especially, to be first off the mark when it comes to feelings. Most men find it strange enough talking about feelings in the first place! When you first share your feelings from the heart, you will find that your partner is then much more willing to share his (or hers) with you.

Use the preceding as a guide when it comes to a successful conversation about feelings. Don’t rush, build trust and always tell your truth first. By using the Three T communication template you will find that your life partner relationship will improve, your stress levels will be reduced and your other conversations will improve too, even if feelings aren’t even involved!

Sasha LeBaron is a retired fire fighter and author of two books as well as many articles on the specific techniques and tools involved with finding your perfect life partner. He lives in the gulf islands of BC, Canada with his perfect life partner and a large fluffy cat. Learn how you can find YOUR perfect life partner in as little as ten minutes per day at http://www.FindYourPerfectLifePartner.com

Everyone has something in their life that they would like to change. Some really big goals include overcoming addiction, achieving and sustaining weight loss, attaining inner peace, manifesting health, or becoming more successful. We are born to continuously expand our abilities. The beginning of most goals are exciting. Visions of triumph flourish in the minds of those starting a path of change. Each new day brings energy to chase down the most elusive of goals. But what if you’ve been working on manifesting the same dream for years? And one day, despite your optimism, despite the effort of applying the tools of empowerment, you realize that you have not acquired the goal which you set for yourself.

Encountering a obstacle, even a seemingly insurmountable obstacle, doesn’t mean you are on the wrong path. We all experience despair and doubt. Times where we question the worth of what we do. Moments of temptation to give up. I have them, as does each person I work with. I would wager that everyone striving to become more than they were before, reaches a critical time of choice. Feeling sorry for yourself is not a wrong action. What we often fail to see is the value in this pit of despair. This experience of despair is precisely what is necessary for the breakthrough to occur.

BELIEF SYSTEMS AND INTERNAL TAPES

The dark experiences of despair are not logical, nor solved intellectually. These moments of darkness mean we have brought ourselves back to the core of what we believe about ourselves. Deep painful beliefs that we would rather keep hidden from ourselves and from others. The pain of not yet achieving our goals forces us to look at what we believe to be true about ourselves. Limiting beliefs are varied, but can include the following:

“Something is wrong with me.”

“I never get what I want.”

“I cant’ get what I want, no matter what I do. It’s hopeless.”

“Who I am is not enough.”

“I don’t belong.”

When we are undergoing change, the realization we must make is that is it not what faces us that is the problem, but how we are reacting to it. How we react to the situation is based on our inner beliefs about ourselves. The despair is felt because you have increased inner conflict. Conflict of what you want to believe versus what you actually believe. This conflict must either be suppressed (by giving up the goal) or the conflict must be resolved (goal is attained or a new belief system becomes integrated.).

It is at this very pressure point, giving up or moving forward, that allows the choice to step into a new belief about yourself or to reinforce an old belief. Just because things seem insurmountable right now, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be following this path. It only means you are face to face with what you believe. And an inner belief system being threatened can result in a variety of symptoms, the most common being negative thoughts, suicidal thoughts, hopelessness, low energy, panic or anxiety, or worrying about small details.

DARK PITS

With great change comes the risk of facing the darkness of what we believe about ourselves. Sometimes it’s fairly easy to face the darkness and bring light. But sometimes we fall directly into the pit. If you fall in, take a breath and know this experience has great value. You are only here because you are ready to explore and encounter a horrible idea that you have about yourself. An idea that you can’t have what you want, that your best isn’t good enough, or that no matter what you do things remain hopeless. Inside the dark hole are ideas you made up about yourself when you were a child as an attempt to explain the experience of growing up. Your spirit is hiding in the darkness, waiting for your return. So if you are in the dark pit of despair you are in a place of blest fortune. You have reached the place in which you have hidden your spirit. Only you can choose to bring you spirit back into the light. As you face the darkness, will you decide to heal your spirit by offering it encouragement? Will you reassure your spirit and bring new information?

Let’s say you decide to be with your darkness? Now what? You must sit with it. Sit with the pain of what this darkness represents. Yes, it feels overwhelming. Confusing. Hopeless. In the darkness there are only dark thoughts. Do not fight the darkness with more darkness (anger, frustration, threats, hopelessness . . ). It would only create a larger darkness. ACCEPTANCE alone is the key. The darkness and despair fights with all it’s might to keep us believing that we are weak and defective. Not because it is evil, but because we put these beliefs into place to keep our spirits safely hidden in the dark. As an adult, you now hold the key to accept the darkness, to accept all the dark thoughts, and offer it love and light. Listen to your spirit. Let it speak its words of fear. Then offer your spirit comfort and acceptance. After all, your spirit went through some pretty tough times that it deciding hiding was the only safe option.

You have traveled quite a distance, only to come to a dead end. Accept that you do not have what you want. Accept this. Not with anger, not with frustration. Simply breath and accept.
It doesn’t matter why you are at this point. It is as it is. Now go more deeply into it.

This point of transition can provide opportunity to strengthen your spirit and not let outside circumstances throw you off balance. This is a pivotal occasion to choose empowering thoughts, practice gentleness and reassurance, and reinforce your belief that you can have what you want. Accept the experience as best you can. It will lead to insight. Acceptance of what is, even though it might feel terrifying, is the way out. Acceptance is not apathy. Use acceptance to allow you to go deeper. A journal, a therapist, or a trusted friend may help as you sit with these questions:

1. What am I experiencing right now?

2. What are my thoughts concerning this experience?

3. What am I feeling?

4. What do I believe about myself, my place in the world, as I encounter this dead end?

5. Is this similar to how I felt in certain situations as a child?

5. What does my spirit need to feel safe and trusting?

6. If I was wise and loving, how would I comfort myself?

WHICH PATH TO CHOOSE

Go forward or give up? There are no wrong choices. At this point of transition, do not force yourself. Do not inflict judgement upon yourself. Realize that you have invited yourself to question an essential belief you hold to be true about yourself. Maybe the time is right to sit with this, maybe the time is not yet right. If it is your destiny to allow yourself to have what your goal represents, you will create the opportunity once again. Relax. Recognize how terrifying this moment is and find compassion for yourself. What path should you choose? Carlos Castaneda wrote in, “The Teaching of Don Juan”, “Does the path have heart? If it does, the path is good; if it doesn’t, it is of no use. Both paths lead nowhere; but one has heart and the other doesn’t. One makes you strong; the other weakens you.” Perhaps the real transition at this choice point is the courage to open your heart to yourself as you witness yourself experiencing what you fear most.

SITTING WITH WHAT IS

To move through this doubt and despair, sit with what you feel. Speak the words of frustration and anger. Write them down. Often times what we most need is someone else to allow us to fully be in a place of utter hopeless. For them to say, “I see you there, and it’s okay.” And to know they won’t attempt to fix it or make it better.

We need to offer ourselves the same compassion. To look at ourselves in our moments of despair and say, “It’s okay that I feel this. It’s okay that I am experiencing this.” To offer ourselves the love and compassion of not trying to fix ourselves. If confusion is what you feel, fully feel confusion, with love for yourself as you feel it. Open your body and let confusion and expand within you. Experiment (with a therapist if this is too difficult) with not being afraid of your own emotions. Avoid the temptation to retreat into old patterns of starving, overeating, bingeing, or numbing out with other addictions. The fact that you are feeling such confusion is not a sign of failure. This is a sign of growth and courage.

Even though the feelings are difficult, recognize the value of being exactly where you are. Attempt to be with your feeling without judgement. Feel what you feel with acceptance. Accept that you are experiencing despair, hopelessness or frustration. No need to judge it. No need to defend it. No need to analyze it and figure out where this came from. It is acceptable to feel misery. It is acceptable to want to give up. We’ve all felt that at times. Your task at this critical point is to find a way to open your heart and receive to your own despair. Cry the tears, shout the anger, give witness to the unfairness of it all. Then decide. Even though you are at a dead end, what can you do right now? It might seem so much easier to go back to food, bingeing, alcohol, starving, exercise, or diversions for comfort. But is that what you really want? Refocus your thoughts away from the future and bring yourself back to right now. Bring words of power and encouragement. “I possess the gifts of inner belief, patience, conviction and discipline. I can choose my goals and I have the strength and stamina to reach for them. I am a working and viable part of the world and I have an important job to do. I am not afraid to believe in my inner strength or my power.”

GREATER FAITH

As I continue on my journey, I have learned that achieving greater faith is an ongoing journey. and not just a one step process. Each of us have many limiting belief systems within that must be faced, accepted, and released. Faith in anything, including myself, is an infinite and ever expanding experience. There is a passage in Betty Eadie’s book, “Awakening the Heart” where she describes faith as an ongoing process. First we have knowledge. Then belief. We practice belief over and over again, and eventually faith begins to develop. Whether you are talking about faith in a god, or faith in yourself, it is not something you wake up with one day. At least that is not my experience. It takes going back to the dark places to re-establish faith. Learning to be kind to our spirit that may be scared, stubborn, and even defiant.

Although it is painful and we may desperately want to run from what we feel, only by sitting with our spirit that is hiding in the darkness and bringing it love that we can re-establish faith. I have often wished at times it weren’t so. It is excruciatingly painful to uncover what hurts within us. But we eventually discover truth: it is only our own misconception, our own belief, our own judgement and punishment, that we are not worthy. The reward is deciding, to our amazement, that it really is okay to open our own heart to all aspects of our self.

Copyright 2005, Dr. Annette Colby, all rights reserved.

Dr. Annette Colby, RD
Nutrition Therapist & Master Energy Healer
Annette@AnnetteColby.com
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